Tuesday, March 27, 2007

The Best Path

The LORD is nigh unto them that are of a broken heart; and saveth such as be of a contrite spirit. Psalm 34:18

I was nearly 16 when we left my favorite place in the world, San Diego, California, to move to the Podunk town of Hixson, Tennessee. Someone certainly thought of an appropriate name for that place, I thought way back then. The high school years are a horrible time for such drastic changes in a teenager’s life. I had good friends and a good school. I liked my life as it was and I did not want it to change. I certainly did not want to move to a place where everyone spoke with a weird accent and talked about buggies in the grocery store and stove eyes in the kitchen. What were my parents thinking? What was God thinking? But we did move. My parents took me, practically kicking and screaming, across the continent and away from everything that was familiar. Eventually, it became home. I grew accustomed to the accent and even adopted it myself. I learned exactly how to say “ice” and that all carbonated drinks were called “coke”. The kids at school were normal kids, most of them. I really expected red hair and bare feet. I made friends and fell in love with the south. Years later, I realized that leaving California was the best thing for me. God had a plan for my life. He knew the best path.

Fast forward nearly three decades and I find my son in the same situation. We left Romania just days before his 16th birthday. The culture here in the States is practically foreign to him. He has left his best friend and a life he loved in a country he will probably never live in again. He is broken hearted and must be wondering what God is thinking.

Over the years, I have seen first hand how God has worked in my life. He has led me through difficult times, challenges, failures and tragedies. Time after time He has healed my broken heart and I have become stronger because of the trials. Now my children are growing up. I know that in this life, they will face their own struggles. The sorrow of life cannot always be healed with a mother’s kiss and a band-aid. Children grow up and they must learn to rely on the One who directs their steps, the One who loves them so much more than their mother. It is breaking my heart to see his heart broken. I kneel down and ask God to hold him close, so close that he can feel God’s presence and know that God does indeed have a reason for that path He has asked us to walk. I am trusting Him to heal broken hearts.

He healeth the broken in heart, and bindeth up their wounds. Psalm 147:3

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18 Comments:

Blogger MiPa said...

Praying for your son as he adjusts. Blessings to all of you. He does heal broken hearts.

March 27, 2007 3:32 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I know just how your son feels. He is young, and he will heal, but it is hard to see that when you're 16... or 26, or 36...we are all depending on God to heal our broken places. I am praying...
Sandy/fallinglikerain

March 27, 2007 5:24 PM  
Anonymous Heidi said...

Hi, Karen!
Thanks for always taking the time to stop by my blog and leave comments~ you're great that way!

I'm sorry that your son is having some adjustment problems. I'm sure it must be very tough to leave behind all that you've known for so long. Hopefully things will turn around soon for him. Might I ask where you are in the US?

Heidi

March 27, 2007 7:52 PM  
Anonymous Mikki said...

Wow, I'm right there with you. When we moved from the NE to the south, my oldest princess was very sad. I knew that it would be hard, but never imagined that it would effect her the way it did. I almost live with a sense of guilt each day that I took her away from all she knew.
But I have a great friend that likes to remind me that we followed God's leading in coming here and that HE will use it in my daughters life too - HE didn't just move my husband and myself - HE moved the whole family.
I guess it's one area in my life I have a hard time letting go off, but just continue to pray for her and remind her of how much she is loved.
We've been here for 3 years now and it has gotten A LOT better.
So hang in there and when I'm praying for my princess - I'll pray for you prince.

March 27, 2007 8:27 PM  
Blogger Boltbabe said...

Oh I will certainly pray for him. I never even thought about your children moving back to the states, after having lived in Romania for so long. It is so hard to be mommy when you can't kiss it and make it all better, so I will pray for you too!

March 27, 2007 9:49 PM  
Blogger jewlsntexas said...

I didn't realize Gabriel and Kendra's birthdays were so close - she turns 16 on April 5th. What a milestone.
They have a lot in common with the move. They really should resume communication! They need each other.
Email me a phone number if you would - she would like to call him if that is okay with you.

March 27, 2007 10:49 PM  
Blogger Deedee said...

Karen, I too will be praying for your son! I also moved home to another state when I was 16! And I still remember the trauma of it all, but like you I can look back and see the Lord's guiding hand in it all!

March 28, 2007 1:47 AM  
Anonymous Angela said...

Karen,

I am wiping away tears...your story is so similar to mine right now...moving and readjusting... helping our children transition. I am comforted in the fact that God does indeed know the reason for our move and yours as well.

Thank you for sharing my own heart so beautifully. I will pray for you and your family during this time.

Blessings,

Angela
http://www.homeschoolblogger.com/happyhome

March 28, 2007 7:16 AM  
Blogger Nadine said...

I'll be praying for you all especially for your son. I pray that God would heal his broken heart and that he would find friendships here.

March 28, 2007 8:44 AM  
Anonymous PlainJane said...

Oh Karen,
I know how it hurts a mommy's heart to see their child hurting and being helpless to make it all better.

We are presently going through a child/friendship thing right now. Although we are not moving, my youngest daughter's best friend (outside of her sister) has now been included in a clique of older girls and suddenly doesn't want to have anything to do with my daughter. The friend is enjoying being part of the "big girls" too much - even though she is the same age as our daughter. It hurts me deeply to see this happening as I thought they would be best friends for life (and I think I'm taking it harder than my daughter).

Hopefully your son can still be pen pals with his Romanian friends and make true friends with others here in the states quickly. I will be praying for him - and you.

March 28, 2007 9:06 AM  
Blogger Irritable Mother said...

Yes, yes, yes!!!
God is perfectly in control, He has a purpose for every move, and He will use ever trial in our lives for good!
Though we go through pain as we grow, we don't do it alone. I'm praying, too, that your son will know without a doubt that God is with him and will always care for him.

March 28, 2007 10:23 AM  
Anonymous Erica Burgan said...

Karen,
I have been following your blog for awhile and wanted to share - we are missionaries in Mexico and when we moved here 4 years ago, my son one was the one with the broken heart. He asked, "Why does God make me give up all the things I love?" Well, God has proven Himself to my son over and over. And I know He will to your son, too. Be blessed and encouraged.
Erica

March 28, 2007 11:48 AM  
Blogger scribbit said...

Wow, I suppose moving from Romania would definitely be a transition. What an exotic place to have lived.

March 28, 2007 3:23 PM  
Anonymous Kelly K. said...

will keep you and your family in our continued prayers. It's hard on everyone when you move. I understand completely. We lived in Germany for almost 5 yrs. (Dad was in the Army)I was 4 when we moved and almost 10 when we came back to NC. It was a BIG adjustment. I thought everyone sounded weird with that southern accent. BUT I love living in NC and so greatful for what God has done with my life.
In Time Gabriel will too.
God Bless you all.
Kerley's in NC

March 28, 2007 4:54 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I once heard someone say "When life gives you lemons, make Lemonade".
The Lord is in charge of all things, including a move back from Romaina.
Gabe, look on the bright side, you can't drive a car in Romania till you are 18. You already have more hours behind the wheel that I had when I joined the Navy at age 18.

You will have many new opportunities here in Alabama and wherever you finally settle down. It's up to you to make the best "Lemonaid" you can make with this new "Lemon" life has placed in your path.
God bless you and your family as you adjust to your new surroundigs.
"Today is the day the Lord has made, rejoice and be happy in it!"

March 29, 2007 7:01 AM  
Blogger Patricia of Pollywog Creek said...

Bless his heart. I know that you know God's plans are perfect, but it sure is hard to watch our children learn to trust Him through pain. (((((Hugs)))))

March 29, 2007 10:03 PM  
Blogger Michelle said...

I feel for your son!

And I can SO relate to you!
I am horribly "homesick" for San Diego, too!
(We used to live in Mira Mesa - and later Mission Valley! My DH proposed at LaJolla cove!)
I'd move back in an instant if it wasn't so horribly expensive!
I guess God just wants us to stay in the Midwest!

Blessings,
Michelle W.

March 31, 2007 12:03 AM  
Blogger Michelle said...

I feel for your son!

And I can SO relate to you!
I am horribly "homesick" for San Diego, too!
(We used to live in Mira Mesa - and later Mission Valley! My DH proposed at LaJolla cove!)
I'd move back in an instant if it wasn't so horribly expensive!
I guess God just wants us to stay in the Midwest!

Blessings,
Michelle W.

March 31, 2007 12:04 AM  

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